VICTORIAN AGONY AUNTS




*Detail from an illustration to a humorous essay in The Englishwoman's Domestic Magazine (1862). It is in the form of a Letter to the Editor from a desperate country girl worried that her fashionable, flirtatious and patronising cousin down from town is completely overshadowing her in the eyes of her fiancé. As she tries hard to be welcoming to the visitor the wariness in her eyes expresses both her astonishment at the latest fashion in millinery and her repressed fears that she is a 'common corse [sic] person by the side of her'; fears which can only find an outlet in writing to the editor. 'There's nobody here to say anything to..' So rambling is the letter, however. that by the time she signs off her troubles are happily resolved. The satire is directed as much at the pretentious townee in her parasol,  "pork pie" hat and veil for a tour of the farm, as to the naive letter-writer who cannot spell.
The illustration is by Adelaide Claxton, a book illustrator and painter whose work appeared in a number of Victorian periodicals.

The Agony Aunts of modern periodicals have their immediate  forbears in the  "Answers to  Correspondents" pages of Victorian women's magazines. Generally speaking, in the nineteenth century it was magazines addressed primarily to women that carried columns answering readers' queries, including issues which today we regard as  "Agony Aunt " material, i.e. questions dealing with personal dilemmas and emotions.  Most of such magazines featured on Victorian Page - the Englishwoman's Domestic Magazine, New Monthly Belle Assembleé, Girl's Own Paper, Ladies' Treasury and Woman at Home - carried some answers which would fall into this category. But, as the essay mentioned in the caption above suggests, readers' worries focused on a wider range of issues  than affairs of the heart.  Feelings of social inadequacy, being bullied by siblings or worries about one's figure or face, are all topics which recur in the columns. However, the only early one which, as far as I know, dealt exclusively with courtship and other deeply emotional issues was the relatively short-running Sam Beeton's "Cupid's Letter-Bag" in the Englishwoman's Domestic Magazine. More usually such questions were dealt with alongside issues of etiquette, queries about items in the magazine, requests for advice on fashion, health or beauty, or even answers to general knowledge questions. The Girls' Own Paper, aimed at young women in their twenties as well as girls, in contrast, divided its readers' letters and the answers into sections covering topics like education, housekeeping and music. Here most "Agony Aunt" questions appeared in "Miscellaneous".

A correspondent's identity  was normally disguised by a pseudonym or hidden behind initials. The reply to "F.D., The Elms" in the Ladies' Treasury's "Answers" column under "Agony Aunts" below is unusual in including a house name, which might encourage an outbreak of tittering among the the friends of every Fanny Davies or Flora Davis living in a leafy suburb in a house with that popular Victorian name.
However, the  reply itself suggests an "Agony Aunt" problem typical  of the period. It presents itself as a question of etiquette and interpreting the nuances of courtship  whilst the answer, even more forcefully than  Sam Beeton's final remark to "Leontine" in the rival Englishwoman's Domestic Magazine, adopts a brisk, moralising tone in addressing the enquirer's assumptions - or hopes - about the young man's intentions.

LEONTINE is troubled about her complexion. What a host of English girls are anxious on this subject, if we may judge by the numbers of letters we receive; and yet, on the Continent, the fair daughters of Albion are considered to have lovely skins. The Dutch women only can compete in this charm. We do not recommend lotions or powders of any description for improving the complexion, as we think, eventually, they tend rather to spoil than improve the skin. Plenty of exercise - horse exercise particularly - will assist in a great measure to "produce the desired effect," as Leontine says. This is a simple remedy, and one that would not be likely to prove injurious...  Your writing we do not think at all good; there is not sufficient decision. When Leontine ceases to think so much of her complexion, and devotes her time and thoughts to more useful matters, we have no doubt but that her writing will assume a different aspect, less frivolous, and denoting some character and strength of mind.
Englishwoman's Domestic Magazine 1862

Later examples of answers to  readers worried about personal appearance are published on  the "Ladies' Page - Beauty Secrets".

The following is an extract from part of a multi-question answer:

F.D. THE ELMS - no matter how great the intimacy may be between the families, such etiquette in these matters should always be kept up as would be if the parties were strangers to each other. It is so much the fashion now for friends mutually to present their photographs for the purpose of placing in photographic albums, that a lady could take no exclusiveness to herself, or she should not, on being presented with a gentleman's likeness, unless the magic words have been spoken, and parents' approval make it a betrothal; therefore, by no means should the lady give hers in exchange - never give the slightest opportunity to be laughed at, or to be spoken lightly of, or the chance to have it imagined that her pure and maiden love, that brightest jewel of a girl's inheritance, can be obtained without effort, and for the asking. Men always desire most that which is difficult to obtain.
Ladies' Treasury 1861



*"F.D." was almost certainly a middle-class "young lady" of the kind Mrs Warren, editress of the Ladies' Treasury, sought for her readership. By the later decades of the century, however,  photographic portraits were within the reach of the working classes.  This detail from an illustration in the Windsor Magazine shows a photographer at work on Hampstead Heath in the mid 1890s creating "A Bank Holiday Souvenir". The text makes clear that every reader will be well aware from numerous accounts that now the Heath is  'the  very centre of the gaieties which  have made " 'Appy, 'Appy "Ampstead " so notoriously the place of places at which to spend a glorious Bank Holiday if you be a dweller in London' , but that the authors' personal knowledge of  these gaieties is - thankfullly - it is implied, second-hand.

Readers interested in the satirical comments on fashion in hats may be interested in the item on bonnets in the new page on the Crinoline. An introduction to Readers' Letters to Victorian women's magazines will be found on the Editor's Mailbag.


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